Opposites attract

Something struck me when I was talking with Master last night.  We deal with unsolvable problems in such different ways - and it occurred to me that those ways are so much the essence of who we are to each other.

When I'm impacted by something I cannot change, I let go of it.  If something is solvable, I can agonise over it for days - but if I'm powerless, I shrug my shoulders and move on.  It's submission.  Being unable to control something is more comfortable for me than the dilemma of how to control it.

But a Dominant doesn't let go so easily.  When Master is confronted by a problem he can't change, he simply pushes harder until he finds a way to change it.  Letting go is not an option.  He will keep at it until the dilemma submits to him.  Anything less is not acceptable.

So when we try to solve a problem together, Master and I inevitably end up looking at each other, bewildered, a lot of the time.  I am thinking, why drive ourselves nuts over this, if we can't fix it?  It's just crazy-making.  He is thinking, how on earth can you give up so easily?  We haven't solved this yet!

None of this is ground-breaking stuff, really.  Just typical relationship dilemmas that everyone has - different values, communication styles, etc etc.  But it got me thinking about D/s relationships in particular, and how they are essentially formed when two people deliberately chose one another specifically because they are polar opposites.  So with that in mind, there are many more differences in thinking styles than just whether to give up or not in solving problems.  How the hell can any Master and slave partnership ever learn to "get" one another when the very definition of their relationship is that they are opposite ends of the same scale?

Buggered if I know the answer.

But maybe we don't need to understand each other the way so many vanilla couples do anyway.  Maybe the only reason so many feel that way is because of the love of the illusion that our other half is the same as us.  In D/s, we can't pretend they are the same in any way.  Nor would we want that.  So maybe, putting it in that perspective makes it easier for us kinky types to accept differences?